The other day, Katherine O'Brien shared a Pinterest board called "Metastatic Breast Cancer: Stage 4 People and their Stories." I'm not on Pinterest but I clicked through and was floored by all the beautiful and interesting people from so many different walks of life. So many are so young. So many of little kids, as I did when I was first diagnosed.
It got me thinking how much connections with others has mattered to me over the last 8 years. I looked back at some of my own lists. I looked at the blogrolls of others. And I realized that far too many of these amazing women are no longer with us.
Today's post is not about the sadness and anger I feel when I think about how many wonderful women have been lost to metastatic breast cancer and how little is actually being done to address our needs.
Today's post is about our voices. About making a new list of women who are living with metastatic breast cancer and writing about that - and so many other things.
In no particular order:
Katherine O'Brien I Hate Breast Cancer
Catherine Brunelle Bumpyboobs
Lisa Bonchek Adams
The Sarcastic Boob
Ann Silberman Breast Cancer? But Doctor...I hate pink!
Jen at Booby and the Beast
Carolyn Frayn Art of Breast Cancer
Lulu Change Living Life Furiously
Uppity Cancer Patient
Kate Kate Has Cancer
Vicki, Inspiring Breast Metatastatic Breast Cancer Advocacy
Susan Rahn, StickIt2Stage4
Lori Marx-Rubiner regrounding: of chemo, cancer and facing life head-on
Victory Over BC
Chantelle Chantelle's blog
Nicole Jasien Walk By Faith Not Sight
Honorary club member:
Nancy Stordahl at Nancy's Point
Nancy doesn't have metastatic breast cancer and I hope she never joins us but she supported her mother through mets, has been through treatment herself and is a "staunch advocate" for metastatic breast cancer.
The organizations that don't ignore us:
Metastatic Breast Cancer Network
Canadian Breast Cancer Network
ReThink Breast Cancer
This isn't the end. For our stories or for this list. I welcome additions from Twitter or the blogosphere. Just let me know.
Last winter, there was a bit of shitstorm about whether those of us living with mets had the right to be talking about it publicly. It was aimed at Lisa Bonchek Adams but lots of us took it very personally. For me, it brought a re-newed commitment to keep telling all of my story, including the parts about cancer, as honestly and openly as I can (as Lisa so consistently does, with grace, patience and clarity).
I struggled with what to call this post. I personally hate being called a "cancer blogger" because that's not all that I am. I don't even write about cancer in every post. I settled for the rather unwieldy title, above, because I think that's who we are: women, all different from each other, with interesting lives, who write about living with mets and whatever else is of interest to them. I hope to write more about each of them, in the next few months.