tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post4499196304382689254..comments2024-03-20T03:37:35.596-04:00Comments on not just about cancer: what jacqueline said that made it betterlauriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14533311678025418958noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-13226286300500560392007-11-26T01:03:00.000-05:002007-11-26T01:03:00.000-05:00It seems silly to comment some more when all these...It seems silly to comment some more when all these wise women who read your blog have already commented but I have to tell you this kind of misogynist crap drives me nuts. As a midwife, I hear stuff like this all the time...you know, women are in labour for two days because they hate their mother or they can't push their baby out because they are afraid of parenting. After 17 years of watching the unbelievably varied ways that biology affects us all I think it's all balderdash.<BR/><BR/>On the other hand, if you subscribe to that theory... why wasn't that guy commending you for your intense love of life and incredible strength of spirit that healed your liver?<BR/><BR/>Another one out of lurkdom. Love, KAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-65485654141103493552007-11-25T00:58:00.000-05:002007-11-25T00:58:00.000-05:00Laurie, it's been said but all I can say is what a...Laurie, it's been said but all I can say is what an ass. Seriously. <BR/><BR/>I'm glad you found (and shared) that beautiful poem. It speaks volumes.Mom2Amarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00533902850974337396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-12716232186863782922007-11-24T13:53:00.000-05:002007-11-24T13:53:00.000-05:00What a bizarre, unenlightened view that man had.I'...What a bizarre, unenlightened view that man had.<BR/><BR/>I'm always amazed by people who assign some sort of cosmic consequence to cancer. It just doesn't work that way. I was born with it; was I an exceptionally naughty fetus?<BR/><BR/>I've run into many of those professionals also, who are supposed to "help" but mainly end up sputtering nonsense or chatting about themselves.<BR/><BR/>He was an idiot, and I'm glad you didn't buy into it.Sakurako Kitsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17353382230337678916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-71592551039911224662007-11-22T15:42:00.000-05:002007-11-22T15:42:00.000-05:00i've heard that garbage before. it's infuriating....i've heard that garbage before. it's infuriating. good for you for leaving early. is it vindictive of me to be glad you caused him some discomfort after he did the same to you? <BR/><BR/>love the poem you posted. thank you.<BR/><BR/>-platespinnerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-58924402290246748012007-11-22T10:45:00.000-05:002007-11-22T10:45:00.000-05:00Thanks everyone. And Allie, if you feel like it, y...Thanks everyone. And Allie, if you feel like it, you can email me at laurie dot kingston at gmail dot com.<BR/>Thank you for coming out of lurkdom.lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14533311678025418958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-21442326112904570852007-11-21T22:57:00.000-05:002007-11-21T22:57:00.000-05:00Aaaaaaaaah! I'm sorry it's taken me so long to get...Aaaaaaaaah! I'm sorry it's taken me so long to get caught up on your posts! Testing & work have conspired against me.<BR/><BR/>I have to say that I'm amazed that you stayed in the room with that asshat.<BR/><BR/>It's great to know that there are such irresponsible clowns out there, dishing out advice without a clue about actually helping people.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you got the hell out of there, because that guy has no business counseling others. People like him are dangerous.<BR/><BR/><BR/>xo!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-8901753735371953842007-11-21T12:37:00.000-05:002007-11-21T12:37:00.000-05:00Thank you all. My commenters are so smart.Thank you all. My commenters are so smart.lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14533311678025418958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-50720839225274153542007-11-21T10:36:00.000-05:002007-11-21T10:36:00.000-05:00Thanks for sharing -- that's beautiful. This remi...Thanks for sharing -- that's beautiful. <BR/><BR/>This reminds me of how people blame me (indirectly) for my son's autism by saying vaccines caused it. It's hard for me not to get angry about it (I usually do), but at the same time I see that it is the attempt of others to control the scary and the unknown. <BR/><BR/>They don't want to admit that <I>anyone</I> could end up with cancer -- that their child could end up with autism -- no matter what they do. They want to think that if they do everything right, they won't end up where we are. It's too frightening to admit that there are many things we simply have no control over -- that we don't understand -- that we can't explain...Mary P Jones (MPJ)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10251787926841410344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-41428524234670250762007-11-20T23:17:00.000-05:002007-11-20T23:17:00.000-05:00I'm another lurker who has a similar journey and o...I'm another lurker who has a similar journey and oddly a similar experience with a therapist. Mine kept checking his computer screen which beeped everytime he got an email. This while I sobbed and begged for some help to manage the overwhelming fear I was experiencing (I was diagnosed stage 4 with liver mets at presentation).<BR/>Much of Bernie Siegal's claims and research have been shown to be wrong - we just live in a world that likes to blame its victims for their trouble. On top of that there's a line-up of people who want to sell us hope at exorbitant prices. Our fault we got cancer, our fault we can't cure ourselves, our fault we hurt and grieve. Many of them even believe the nonsense they spiel and sell. Its sad. I am sorry though he wasted your time - you (as do we all) deserved better.<BR/>There are really good people out there to - <BR/>Cheers,<BR/>AllieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-85171500045751327322007-11-20T11:47:00.000-05:002007-11-20T11:47:00.000-05:00Incredible. Incredibly insulting, and annoying, an...Incredible. Incredibly insulting, and annoying, and asshole'ish. Yikes. Would you want to report his practices to some sort of board?<BR/><BR/>It is true when people do things like that, it's about them, not you. The poem is lovely.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-47151196786075217972007-11-19T20:23:00.000-05:002007-11-19T20:23:00.000-05:00Oh and the poem was FABULOUS! You are right poets...Oh and the poem was FABULOUS! You are right poets have a way of getting to you where you live. Oh and I might be in the mood for a bauble or two.<BR/>Love,<BR/>BabzBabz Rawls Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04059921674059371076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-37996423105138126322007-11-19T20:21:00.000-05:002007-11-19T20:21:00.000-05:00Hey Sister-Friend,I am just glad that you recogniz...Hey Sister-Friend,<BR/>I am just glad that you recognized crazy when you saw it. That in and of itself is big big big! Yousee A Warrior Queen knows how to spot bullshit. You make me proud...now go and find what you need in a real therapist!Babz Rawls Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04059921674059371076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-23388200328863572812007-11-19T17:58:00.000-05:002007-11-19T17:58:00.000-05:00YUCK. When folks are mean to you, I always kind of...YUCK. When folks are mean to you, I always kind of want to track them down and beat them with some kind of blunt object. DON'T they know who you ARE?joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01453075718683708291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-83247176334807155252007-11-19T17:15:00.000-05:002007-11-19T17:15:00.000-05:00Awwwww what an a**. Primitive idiot. I hope you di...Awwwww what an a**. <BR/>Primitive idiot. I hope you did not have to pay $$ for the session. I totally get that you stayed an hour. I would have wondered for a while if I was missing something, if the right therapist was about to walk in through the door gently asking his less lucky brother to run out and play in the yard, or simply been a bit afraid of insulting/upsetting the guy (It is so hard not to act canandian). You walk into a therapists office prepared to open up a bit more than is usually comfortable in order to receive help and support. This makes us all vulnerable to CRAP. <BR/>I never hated my spine. I never thought much about it until it stopped working to my advantage. Nobody asks for it!! Ever!!<BR/> I'm not sure I would not have been frozen and broken after such a trap though. Here's a big hug HUG. I'm proud you walked when you did. LRAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-42784610737449517732007-11-19T15:54:00.000-05:002007-11-19T15:54:00.000-05:00Foolish man. He read something that sounded good ...Foolish man. He read something that sounded good to him so this is what he preaches?? Can he back this up scientifically? Probably not!!!<BR/><BR/>I think you are on the right track...that was about him, not about you. There are a bucketful of reasons you (and I and many others) developed cancer...and thinking negatively about our bodies, while not healthy, is not one of them!Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08271529958269038071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-76063343863117172172007-11-19T15:34:00.000-05:002007-11-19T15:34:00.000-05:00Okay so you don't say what sorts of anti-fear tool...Okay so you don't say what sorts of anti-fear tools this guy supplied you with and so I'm going to assume this guy supplied you with recreational chemistry and has been sampling a tad too much product of late.<BR/><BR/>Or maybe this is the register clerk at the LCBO.<BR/><BR/>Either way there's lots of other people that can offer that sort of support without offering unqualified and almost random opinion. <BR/><BR/>The nerve. It would be like me offering my neighbour advice on how to fix his motorbike.<BR/><BR/>What a jackass.<BR/><BR/>W-w-w-ait. He isn't really a therapist, is he? Still?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-60023751331090792902007-11-19T14:57:00.000-05:002007-11-19T14:57:00.000-05:00Laurie,In the interest of avoiding this person - a...Laurie,<BR/><BR/>In the interest of avoiding this person - as my vulnerability is at an all time high - please advise in a seperate email to me who he is. I want to strike him from my list of possible people to reach out for help.<BR/><BR/>thanksAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-70381230510278180542007-11-19T13:11:00.000-05:002007-11-19T13:11:00.000-05:00Sounds like this person is not a very good therapi...Sounds like this person is not a very good therapist.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-12384184733784715512007-11-19T12:37:00.000-05:002007-11-19T12:37:00.000-05:00I only stayed for an hour because I was ALONE with...I only stayed for an hour because I was ALONE with him in the building and I really didn't want a confrontation with him.<BR/><BR/>I just got off the phone with my spouse, who said that I had left out some of the worst parts of that session. It truly was appalling and he was full of shit.<BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for commenting, Sara.lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14533311678025418958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20882588.post-53065577396892000482007-11-19T12:25:00.000-05:002007-11-19T12:25:00.000-05:00Wow, you are so disciplined to have stayed a whole...Wow, you are so disciplined to have stayed a whole hour. And you are very right; the guy was full of poo.<BR/><BR/>I freakin' loved my right leg, and I'd been complimented on my legs my whole life. So there goes that crap theory.<BR/><BR/>Asshole. (Him, not you.)<BR/><BR/>(Please pardon my less than poetic language.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com